I didn't mind at first, I guess being naive can be a good thing. But judgement and criticism from family can take a toll and as I gained more experience and advanced in my career, my world got bigger, while the handyman stayed the same.
I did all this, I told the handyman exactly what I wanted so he'd be aware of what ticked me off. I gave him opportunities to step up. But at the end of the day, realization dawned that not all men would (step up), even if given the chance. I had to accept him for what he is.
The article further stated "A woman breadwinner is likely to succeed and flourish as any other marriages" Are you kidding me? I wonder if the expert author, Kassandra Bibas, has a truly flourishing marriage and a woman breadwinner?
I just looked her up and her blog bio says "My marital status is M (I guess this means she is married), my motherhood status is Y (and I'm assuming this means she has kids)," No information about her spouse which strikes me as though Ms Bibas is leaving that information out purposefully. I wonder why.
Fine Kassandra, but I just can't be satisfied with me being the breadwinner by default. When it comes to marriage, I want the old school biblical way where the man is the MAN. That's not in the Bible, I know, I don't know any verses, but you get it. Can I make my marriage work even if the handyman won't ever fill his big shoes? Yes. But I'd be lying if I said I was content.
I'm not attacking this expert author in particular. I do agree with some of the things she said - marriage can work if you put your mind to it regardless of any situation. In an ideal world, wouldn't we all want that?